Dear Abby: Where Are All the Single Men?

Where the boys are

DEAR ABBY: My friends and I are women in our late 40s and early 50s. Some of us are married, some are single. Individually or as a group we have taken classes, volunteered, gone on cruises, gone to clubs and bars -- you name it.

We have noticed that nearly everyone at these activities is either female or with a female as part of a couple. There are loads of single middle-aged women out there joining things and having fun, but there seem to be almost no single middle-aged men. Friends in various parts of the country report the same thing.

Where do the single men go? They rarely go out alone or with a male buddy. Our running joke is they're all home watching bad cable TV.

Middle-aged guys must be there somewhere, but where? You'd think that if they wanted to meet women, they'd go where women are, but we rarely see them. Can you solve this mystery for us? -- WHERE THE BOYS AREN'T, NORTHERN WYOMING

Can’t find a man, really?

Abby gave some answer about how men are intimidated by large groups of women and will rarely approach them. And that if you want to meet men, why not try online. Good answers by a seasoned columnist. But they don't reach the nucleus of the problem.

So if it's okay with you Abby, I'll take this one.

In a few words: women spend all their lives keeping their friends and chasing his all off. Now they're divorced and out clubbing, but the men have had enough of women's games and are quietly enjoying simple lives. Don't blame the men. You made them so.

Good luck out there.